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HOW TO DEAL WITH AN ANGRY BOSS
The best psychology tips for dealing with an angry boss.
How to handle having an angry manager steps.
How to successfully manage your aggressive boss at work.
By Mau, a creative writer, and work relations enthusiast and a marketer at eDigital.
HOW TO DEAL WITH AN ANGRY BOSS
HOW TO DEAL WITH AN ANGRY BOSS
I already know something about you:
You are desperate trying to figure out how to best deal with your angry boss at work.
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THE BEST WAYS TO FIGHT OFF WHEN YOUR MANAGERS TALKS TO YOU WITH ANGER
I’m NOT surprised you’re here, reading this. 🙄
With more and more digital-native “bosses” popping up, whose greatest achievement has been scrolling through social media since they were in diapers 💅👶, is it any wonder you might be the lucky recipient of their tantrums and meltdowns? 😵💫
These bosses have zero anger coping skills, but plenty of emotional baggage. 😤💼
Don’t worry, it’s not you… it’s them. 🙃
Therefore honey, get ready! 🏎️
Here’s how to survive the “bosszilla” meltdown without getting your soul shredded by the flames of fury 🔥 while still remaining a total professional.
I am going make you a walking smart ninja with these 8 tips, yeah you are about to learn how to stay sane when your boss act like she/he is auditioning for a reality show. 📺🍿
THE BEST 8 TIPS FOR MANAGING YOUR FUMING 👿 MANAGER
8. Do NOT quit! 🛑🚪
If your manager is currently vibrating with rage and turning a shade of red usually reserved for heirloom tomatoes, don’t quit just yet.
Don’t even think about packing your bags.
Quitting is for the weak.
You’re a gladiator in this corporate coliseum! 💪
You didn’t come this far to let a tantrum throw you out of the game.
Let’s be honest, we all know you have bills to pay, and your Netflix password isn’t gonna renew itself. So, dig in those heels and stay, mi amigo(a). 🌱
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7. Listen without interrupting 👂💥
When the screaming starts, do not engage. Instead, observe and listen without interrupting.
Imagine you are Sir David Attenborough narrating a documentary.
“Here we see the Lesser-Spotted Middle Manager in its natural habitat, attempting to assert dominance through the traditional mating call of ‘WHY IS SALES ARE FLATTENING THIS MONTH?!‘”
Tip: Dissociate slightly. It keeps you calm and prevents you from crying.
Now’s not the time for your “Well, actually…” or “But here’s why you’re wrong…”.
No, no, no.
Just zip it and channel your inner Zen monk 🧘♂️.
Nod occasionally like you’re a wise guru 🧙♀️.
Your boss is basically an emotional volcano 🌋 and your job is to be the calm lake 🏞️ below it.
Let them blow their steam. And you… you listen like you’re being paid in gold to just nod.
Good boy/girl! 👍🏼
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6. Document EVERYTHING. Record his/her meltdown if possible 📑🎥
Got a phone? 🎤📱
Without your enraged boss noticing it 👀, start recording her/his tantrum if possible. 🎥💥
Your infuriated boss noticing you are recording 😡👀 may make them become more enraged. 🔥⚡
Got a pen? 🖊️
Use it for the “Scribble” defense 📝
Pull out a notebook and start writing eagerly.
They’ll think you’re taking “action items.” In reality, you could be drawing a dragon or writing your grocery list (oats, crackers, cheese, wine… mostly wine). 🍷
Writing things down makes your furious manager feel “heard,” which is usually what their ego is screaming for.
After your boss tantrum?
Documenting the drama is your best weapon.
Write down exactly what happened.
Date, time, and the specific brand of crazy.
This isn’t just for your memoir; it’s for HR if things get “hostile work environment” levels of spicy. 🌶️
Because if things hit the fan later, you’ll have receipts.
Literal receipts.
I’m talking screenshots, emails, and audio.
Heck, if you can somehow get a transcript of the conversation, do it.
You’re basically the Secret Service of office drama now. 🕵️♂️
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5. Stay Calm 🌬️
You want to scream, right?
You’re about 3 seconds away from saying, “If you don’t shut up, I’m going to throw my coffee in your face!” ☕💢
But no.
Channel your inner cucumber.
Keep your breathing steady and remember: this is a temporary storm. 🌪️
You’ve dealt with worse, like when you tried to microwave that questionable leftover lasagna at 3 p.m or when you have eaten that chicken after 3 days in the fridge.
Do NOT tell your irate manager to “Calm Down” 🚫⛽
Telling an angry boss to “calm down” is like trying to put out a grease fire with high-octane gasoline. You will be vaporized.
Your best weapon?
This magic phrase: “I can see you’re frustrated” instead. It’s corporate-speak for “Wow, you’re acting dumb,” but it’s much safer.
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4. Do not take the tantrum personally 😤💅
Your aggressive boss has got issues.
But let’s be clear: this isn’t about you.
She/he is just a grown-up throwing a tantrum like a toddler who dropped their ice cream. 🍦
They’re screaming because they lack basic communication skills and might have had 2 cups of “I hate my life” coffee this morning. (generally that happens when you drink sh*t coffee at Starbucks)
Don’t let their bad day infect you like some viral meme.
This is their circus, their monkeys are on a wild ride. 🎪🐒
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3. Involve your HR Manager early 👔👩💼
This is my pro tip specially for you: DO NOT wait until your boss has gone full Godzilla to involve HR.
You’re not here to just suffer in silence.
If you’re seeing red flags 🚩, like constant belittling or yelling, it’s time to bring in the real professionals.
Get your HR manager to sweat a bit their nice pay check, they are there to keep things legal and prevent bizarre outbursts from turning into a horror movie. 👀
Alert them early, and let them know you’re keeping things 100% professional. 💯
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2. Use professional words when responding 🧑💼📢
Now, when it’s your turn to speak (and it will be, eventually), you must remain cooler than an ice cube in the Arctic. ❄️
You’re not here to fight back, you’re here to defuse the bomb 💣.
Use words like “I understand your frustration” (even if you don’t, i know you don’t and never will) or “Let’s find a solution together” (even if you want to throw them in the nearest crocodile farm).
Just don’t go rogue and end up saying something you’ll regret, like “You’re lucky I don’t start a fire in this office right now”. 🔥
Trust me. That’s bad. Really bad.
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1. The post-game treat 🍩
You survived!
Your reward for not throwing a stapler back at them is a treat.
A fancy coffee, a glass of Pinot Noir, a donut, or a very LOUD heavy metal playlist on the drive home.
Don’t let their bad day ruin your sexy evening.
Shed the stress like a snake sheds skin. 🐍
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HOW TO BEST RESPOND TO AN ANGRY BOSS DURING HIS/HER TANTRUM
- “I can see that you’re frustrated 😤😡, and I understand this is important ⭐📌 to you. I want to make sure I address your concerns properly” 🧠🗂️📋
- “I suggest we give each other some space 🚶♂️🚶♀️🌬️ today 📅 and talk about it tomorrow” ⏰📆🤝
- “I think ending this conversation 🛑🗣️ favours both of us 👍⚖️, sorry 🙏 I am leaving now 🚶♂️🚪 but happy 😊🤝 to talk about it tomorrow” 📆⏰
When your manager say something in an angry way that does not even make sense to you:
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“I understand what you are saying 👂🧠, this’s different 🔄🤔, although I don’t really agree with it” 🙅♂️🙂
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“I understand you’re unhappy 😕😤 with the results 📊📉. Can you please clarify 🔍🗣️ the areas where you feel improvements are needed 📈🛠️ so I can work on those?” 💻📋
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“I’ve never heard it said that way before 👀🤨, but I still don’t understand it 🤷♂️🧠❓. Would you mind explaining again 🔁🗣️ what exactly you would like me to do/complete?” 📝✅
When your boss is angry and demeaning your dignity, your work or you in general:
- “I’ve got your feedback 👂📝, but I’d appreciate 🙏 if we could keep the discussion focused 🎯🧠 on the work 💻📊. I am committed 💪✅ to improving 📈🛠️, and I value constructive feedback” 💬
- “I am sorry 🙏😕, I think we have different perspectives 👀🔄 and I do not think telling me 🗣️👉 [ my work is… ] is going to help us resolve this issue” 🧠⚖️🤝
When your aggressive manager totally lost it and got to the extreme of provoking you:
- “I am sorry 🙏, but I am not going to accept your disrespectful behaviour 🚫👎. I would suggest talking with our HR manager 👩💼🤝 to find a solution to this“
- “I do not accept your behaviour 🚫😡, I am taking a break now, let’s discuss it later“🚶♂️🚪
- “Your bitter comment 😤💬 talks more about you 👤 than about me” 👨💻
- “Biting words 💢 reveal more about the person who speaks them 🗣️👀 than about the person they are meant to communicate with” 🧑💼
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THE TOP 8 MOST COMMON SITUATIONS FOR A MANAGER TO TOTALLY LOST IT
- Your Boss asks you for the impossible (again) but she did not get it and you have already mastered the art of fake enthusiasm when they give you that dull project that defies all logic. 😬🙌
- You disappeared for 15 minutes from your micromanaging boss, because sometimes you need space to breathe and work. 💼✌️But he does not get it.
- You didn’t set boundaries from the start 🚫, and now your boss thinks he has the right to ‘boss’ you around. 😤👨💼
- Your boss has a chronic complaining speech every day 🗣️😩 (yep, that daily rant), but this time, she couldn’t control herself. 🤯💥
- Your boss turn your 9-to-5 into a 9-to-whatever and when you said: “I need a break, please”, you just have caused a massive revolt. 🕔✂️ How you dear that!
- You made a mistake and didn’t write an official apology ✍️😬. Your boss feels disrespected and goes into full tantrum mode 😡💥. Yeah, that ‘I’m sorry’ just didn’t cut it.
- Your boss is always playing the “Blame Game” and want you to be on the hot seat. 🔥😬 You do not care about it so here she goes out of control.
- Your boss is always ‘on the edge,’ like she just got out of a techno rave on a cocaine high 🎶💃💥, and gets even more enraged by your calmness. 😎🔥
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THE BEST FOLLOW UP EMAIL FOR AN ANGRY BOSS WHO JUST PERFORMED A TANTRUM
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Subject: Following up on our discussion / Next steps 📝
Hi [Boss’s Name],
I wanted to follow up on our chat earlier. I’ve taken note of your concerns regarding [Insert Project/Mistake] and am already working on the adjustments we discussed to get things back on track. 🛠️
Moving forward, I’d love to keep our syncs focused on these solutions so we can hit our targets as efficiently as possible. 🚀
I’ll have an update for you by [Time/Day].
Best,
[Your Name]
OOOOOKEY, I know what you are saying: what a boring email.
Wanna spice it up? 🌶
Subject: Detailed analysis of your latest public meltdown 🌋
Hey [Boss’s Name],
Just checking in to see if your vocal cords have recovered from that impressive high-C you hit earlier. 🎤 Truly a transformative performance. I didn’t realize “The Spreadsheet” was a Shakespearean tragedy, but you really brought the drama.
I’ve gone ahead and fixed the [Minor Inconvenience] that caused your temporary departure from reality. It took me approximately 9 seconds, which is significantly less time than it took your face to turn the color of a Maraschino cherry. 🍒
In the future, if you feel another “moment” coming on, feel free to just send an angry GIF of a raccoon. It’s much more efficient and saves us both the therapy bill.
Stay hydrated (maybe try a chamomile tea?),
[Your Name] 💅
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Have your say! 🗣
Tell us how you’ve survived your angry manager meltdown moment:
- “So there I was, just vibing at my desk 💼 when she entered, all fiery breath and thunder ⚡. She started screaming about the TPS reports like they were the cause of world hunger 🌍🍽️. I didn’t flinch, just sipped my coffee ☕, nodded like a bobblehead 🏠, and hit “record” on my phone 🎤. Ten minutes later, she was out of steam and I had a solid audio clip for HR 💼📞😴” Amanda Wise
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Extra survival tips 🏆
- Smile like a psychopath: Sometimes you gotta fake it till you make it. 🤡
- Bring snacks: 🍫 Because you’re gonna need them. They help with stress. Also, bring a stress ball or a pen to click. These are your new best friends.
Final boss level: Another work experience checked ✅
You will survive this, and you’re also setting a new personal best in office survival. 🏆
Keep your eyes on the prize: growth, maturity, and the pay check you’re still collecting.
Keep your cool, document, and when in doubt, call HR.
Because if you’re smart enough to dodge a tantrum, you’re also smart enough to make this work for you in the long run. 💼
Good luck, my fearless warrior! 👑
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